Friday, November 5, 2010

What is a Sissy?

"What is a sissy?"  It is a simple question and the basic answer also seems to be quite simple.  The dictionary definition of "sissy" is "an effeminate boy or man".  This definition is true as far as it goes.  But the definition does not really go very far in explaining what I mean when I say "I am a sissy". 

Calling a male "sissy" is almost always meant to be an insult.  The fact that it is meant this way plainly illustrates the masculine attitude that women are inferior to men.  Otherwise, why should saying that a male is "effeminate" be thought of as an insult? 

This is also demonstrated by the fact that there is no derogatory term for a young female that is not feminine enough.  Yes, the term "tomboy" may mean something like "a girl that likes boy things" but calling a girl a "tomboy" is not generally considered to be an insult.  This attitude can also be seen in the fact that a girl may happily refer to herself as a "tomboy", but a boy will almost never refer to himself as a "sissy". 

So why do I happily refer to myself as a sissy?  I do it because I know that the word "sissy", despite popular belief, is not derogatory.  The idea that the word is an insult is based on the belief that women are inferior to men, that masculinity is superior to femininity.  This belief is wrong.  In fact, women are superior to men, femininity is superior to masculinity.  This is the reason that the word "sissy" is actually not an insult. 

Well then, what exactly do I mean by the word "sissy" when I say "I am a sissy"?  The answer is basically this:  a "sissy" is a male that recognizes the superiority of women and, based on that recognition, desires to reduce his masculinity where ever possible and become more feminine. 

This is a very basic definition but it generally holds true.  Granted, a young boy that is first trying on his mother's panties or sister's nightie or an aunt's slip may not consciously "recognize the superiority of women," but his fascination with the feminine must surely indicate the beginning of that recognition.  Indeed this realization may be subconscious in many sissies but it seems that a male who embraces the feminine within himself could not think of women as inferior to men. 

Briefly, there is one more thing I would like to clear up.  The question that often follows "What is a sissy?" is this one:  "Are you gay?".  The answer to this one is easy.  No, I am not gay.  Most sissies are not gay.  Most sissies adore women more than they can possibly express.  And many sissies feel a vague, if not overt, disgust with masculinity, including their own. 

I hope this clears up some confusion.  I know that it is likely to raise other questions, but I would be thrilled to hear those too! 


  1. This is a great post Jackie and you had plenty of great things to say!!

  2. I liked this post. I think so too.
    sissy can not like men
    sissy can just like to dress and serve his wife.

  3. Hi JA, thanks for reading! I am glad you like the post. I actually wrote this one quite a while ago. And although I still think it is true as far as it goes, I admit it does seem a bit shallow now. Of course, I wanted it to be short but I think I might need to explore the whole idea in more depth. Sissies develop and grow as time goes by just like everybody else. Thanks again!

  4. Wow that is really an intelligently written essay! I am a sissy too. Grew up submitting to both males and females. I don't mean kinky, just giving pleasure in many ways and putting their needs above my own. I am my wife's sissy. I live to serve her and pleasure her and make her life great. I am proud that I am so good at that for her!

  5. I wholeheartedly agree with the earlier comments. I just found your blog and am going to read it from start to finish.



  6. Wow, {{{{{{{{Jackie}}}}}! This almost never happens, but I can say that I agree with this post 100% You go gurl!!!


    P.S. I suspect that many a sissy has just given in to the stereotype of sissies being gay. Perhaps they had too much trouble finding girls who could accept their femininity or just found it easier to attract gay men. I've also noted for years that homosexual "relationships" are heavily centered on SEX, often lacking the sort of intimacy I've noted in secure heterosexual couples. I suspect this is due to the inner-sissies disgust with masculinity. I don't know how many times I've had to console a gay friend whose partner cheated on him by saying, "Oh come on, what did you expect? He's a MAN!" :(

    Anyway, I think you and I have to chat more - you definitely seem like a sissy after my own heart. XOXOXOXOXO