Friday, October 26, 2012

Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 2 - Two Benefits of Embarrassing Your Sissy Self

This is the second part in a series about the relationship between sissies and humiliation. This time I want to expand on the idea that sissies should expect, and even seek, humiliation and use embarrassment as a teaching and learning opportunity.

It is possible for you to be a sissy and never be embarrassed. You can order panties, bras, dresses, maid uniforms, makeup, wigs... pretty much anything your little heart desires, online. You can hide all of your girly things from friends and family, dates, lovers and wives, and live in fear that somebody might find something. You can dress up in private and nobody will ever see you. You can be as sissy as you want online, make friends, have fun, be part of a community, and no one in the "real world" ever has to know. All of this is well and good, but for most sissies this should not be enough.

A sissy needs to push the envelope in some way, to be challenged. And how is a sissy challenged? One way is to get herself into situations where she might be embarrassed. Shopping for panties is a good and very common example. Most sissies get very nervous when they first shop for panties of their own, I know I did. And why is this? A number of reasons might be given: "Somebody might see me." "Somebody might know the panties are for me." "Somebody might laugh at me." They all come down to the same thing: "Somebody might realize I am a sissy." And if somebody realizes you are a sissy you will be embarrassed, humiliated.

Is the fact that you might be humiliated a good reason not to shop for panties? No! It is a good reason to shop for panties! The truth is, somebody, maybe several people, will certainly realize that you are a sissy. At a minimum the cashier will know. It might be embarrassing but there are at least two reasons that this is a good thing: 1) It spreads the idea that some "men" are sissies and 2) It gets you used to the fact that you yourself are a sissy.

The first point is important because the more people that know about sissies, the more sissies there might be. Suppose only one person, the cashier, realizes you are a sissy (and she will). It might give her ideas about her husband. Or she might tell her husband which might give him ideas of his own. She could tell her girlfriends which might give them ideas about their husbands or boyfriends. Or they might tell their husbands or boyfriends and give them ideas of their own! Now multiply this effect by the number of people that see you shopping for panties. The point is, you never know how far the sissy influence might spread.

The second point is important because if you are a sissy, you should feel like a sissy. And you never feel more like a sissy than when you are embarrassed because you know somebody else sees you as a sissy. There's no undoing it, no talking them out of it. They know it and you know it. You might as well accept it, and accept that more people will know it over time. This is a very powerful reinforcement of your identity as a sissy and not a man. Basically, it makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy.

I'll explore the second point more in part three of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Are there any more advantages of humiliating yourself as a sissy? What ways have you embarrassed yourself by revealing your true sissy self?  See you next time and thanks so much for reading!

Friday, October 12, 2012

Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 1 - Is it Embarrassing to be a Sissy?

In this series I want to talk about the relationship between sissies and humiliation, a subject that is more complex than it might at first seem. Much of this complexity arises from the different lifestyles and situations in which a sissy might find herself. I am going to start with two of the most basic questions: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? And, is being humiliated something a sissy should expect?

First of all, the dictionary definition of "humiliate" is "to injure the self-respect of : MORTIFY - humiliation (n)." And, since humiliation is closely related to embarrassment, the most relevant definition of "embarrass" is "to cause to experience self-conscious distress." In addition, the definition of "humility" is "the quality or state of being humble" where the adjective "humble" means "1. not proud or haughty," "2. not pretentious," or "3. insignificant."

Since it is the easiest one, I'll start with "humility." Humility, being humble, is of course an integral part of being a sissy. A sissy is not proud or haughty, and definitely not pretentious. As for the third definition, "insignificant," I feel that it does not apply. A sissy might describe herself as "insignificant," but I do not agree. No one is insignificant, whether man, woman, or sissy. In fact, I would argue that sissies are more beneficial to society than men, but that is a subject for a later essay.

Humility and humiliation are not the same thing, but they are related in interesting ways. For one thing, humiliation (injury to self-respect) in the form of embarrassment (the experience of self-conscious distress) is useful, often even necessary, to teach sissies lessons in humility. On the other hand, the more humility a sissy possesses, the more humble she is, the less likely she is to be embarrassed, and therefore humiliated, in situations that would be completely mortifying to any real man.

So, regarding the first of the questions that I started with: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? My answer is a bit subtle but I would say no, not necessarily. However, being a sissy often does, and probably even should, lead to situations in which the sissy experiences humiliation and embarrassment. In most cases, a sissy should view these situations as learning experiences, as lessons in humility.

Which leads naturally to the second question: Is being humiliated something a sissy should expect? To this, I would say yes, as a sissy you should expect to be humiliated and embarrassed at some point. It might happen when someone discovers your secret, like when your wife catches you dressed up in women's clothes. Or maybe as the result of a situation that you put yourself in, like hearing teen-aged girls giggle at you as you shop in the lingerie section of a department store. If you are a sissy, and have never been embarrassed because of it, maybe you just aren't trying hard enough!

What do you think dear readers? Is it humiliating or embarrassing to be a sissy? Is being embarrassed at times important in your development as a sissy? Let me know what you think, either in the comments, or in YM or email (, or in chat at Club Sissy. Hope to hear from you!

Stay tuned for part two of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, and thanks so much for reading!