Friday, October 12, 2012

Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 1 - Is it Embarrassing to be a Sissy?

In this series I want to talk about the relationship between sissies and humiliation, a subject that is more complex than it might at first seem. Much of this complexity arises from the different lifestyles and situations in which a sissy might find herself. I am going to start with two of the most basic questions: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? And, is being humiliated something a sissy should expect?

First of all, the dictionary definition of "humiliate" is "to injure the self-respect of : MORTIFY - humiliation (n)." And, since humiliation is closely related to embarrassment, the most relevant definition of "embarrass" is "to cause to experience self-conscious distress." In addition, the definition of "humility" is "the quality or state of being humble" where the adjective "humble" means "1. not proud or haughty," "2. not pretentious," or "3. insignificant."

Since it is the easiest one, I'll start with "humility." Humility, being humble, is of course an integral part of being a sissy. A sissy is not proud or haughty, and definitely not pretentious. As for the third definition, "insignificant," I feel that it does not apply. A sissy might describe herself as "insignificant," but I do not agree. No one is insignificant, whether man, woman, or sissy. In fact, I would argue that sissies are more beneficial to society than men, but that is a subject for a later essay.

Humility and humiliation are not the same thing, but they are related in interesting ways. For one thing, humiliation (injury to self-respect) in the form of embarrassment (the experience of self-conscious distress) is useful, often even necessary, to teach sissies lessons in humility. On the other hand, the more humility a sissy possesses, the more humble she is, the less likely she is to be embarrassed, and therefore humiliated, in situations that would be completely mortifying to any real man.

So, regarding the first of the questions that I started with: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? My answer is a bit subtle but I would say no, not necessarily. However, being a sissy often does, and probably even should, lead to situations in which the sissy experiences humiliation and embarrassment. In most cases, a sissy should view these situations as learning experiences, as lessons in humility.

Which leads naturally to the second question: Is being humiliated something a sissy should expect? To this, I would say yes, as a sissy you should expect to be humiliated and embarrassed at some point. It might happen when someone discovers your secret, like when your wife catches you dressed up in women's clothes. Or maybe as the result of a situation that you put yourself in, like hearing teen-aged girls giggle at you as you shop in the lingerie section of a department store. If you are a sissy, and have never been embarrassed because of it, maybe you just aren't trying hard enough!

What do you think dear readers? Is it humiliating or embarrassing to be a sissy? Is being embarrassed at times important in your development as a sissy? Let me know what you think, either in the comments, or in YM or email (, or in chat at Club Sissy. Hope to hear from you!

Stay tuned for part two of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, and thanks so much for reading!


  1. Jackie,

    This is a wonderful post and one that elicits many emotions from me and i'm sure many opinions from your readers.

    Being a sissy can be but does not necessarily have to be embarrassing or humiliating. It can be and often is. As much as we enjoy being a sissy at times, the "discovery" by others isn't always pleasant.

    i think humiliating circumstances and embarrassing situations are part of most sissy's development. i don't think anyone should try to be embarrassed, because if you do things that sissies should do (like shopping for your own lingerie or other things) it might happen naturally and when it does, it will have a much more profound effect on you.

    Looking forward to more on this series.

    Would love to chat with you too :)


    sissy terri

    1. Hi sissy terri, thanks so much for the comment! I do want to expand on the concept that embarrassing situations are growth and learning opportunities for sissies. Maybe in the very next article in the series. Add me to your contacts if you use Yahoo Messenger or check out the Club Sissy chat room :)

  2. miss jackie- Thank you for your writing! At first I didn't want to be humiliated, but now I realize that I's part of the whole deal. Look forward to your posts!

    1. Hi Sara, thanks for the nice comment! I think it is important for a sissy to realize that she should be humiliated on occasion, and learn to enjoy it! You are definitely on the right track!

  3. Love the topic and I sgree the being a sissy can and should have it's humiliating and embarrassing situations.