In this series I want to talk about the relationship between sissies and humiliation, a subject that is more complex than it might at first seem. Much of this complexity arises from the different lifestyles and situations in which a sissy might find herself. I am going to start with two of the most basic questions: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? And, is being humiliated something a sissy should expect?
First of all, the dictionary definition of "humiliate" is "to injure the self-respect of : MORTIFY - humiliation (n)." And, since humiliation is closely related to embarrassment, the most relevant definition of "embarrass" is "to cause to experience self-conscious distress." In addition, the definition of "humility" is "the quality or state of being humble" where the adjective "humble" means "1. not proud or haughty," "2. not pretentious," or "3. insignificant."
Since it is the easiest one, I'll start with "humility." Humility, being humble, is of course an integral part of being a sissy. A sissy is not proud or haughty, and definitely not pretentious. As for the third definition, "insignificant," I feel that it does not apply. A sissy might describe herself as "insignificant," but I do not agree. No one is insignificant, whether man, woman, or sissy. In fact, I would argue that sissies are more beneficial to society than men, but that is a subject for a later essay.
Humility and humiliation are not the same thing, but they are related in interesting ways. For one thing, humiliation (injury to self-respect) in the form of embarrassment (the experience of self-conscious distress) is useful, often even necessary, to teach sissies lessons in humility. On the other hand, the more humility a sissy possesses, the more humble she is, the less likely she is to be embarrassed, and therefore humiliated, in situations that would be completely mortifying to any real man.
So, regarding the first of the questions that I started with: Is it humiliating just being a sissy? My answer is a bit subtle but I would say no, not necessarily. However, being a sissy often does, and probably even should, lead to situations in which the sissy experiences humiliation and embarrassment. In most cases, a sissy should view these situations as learning experiences, as lessons in humility.
Which leads naturally to the second question: Is being humiliated something a sissy should expect? To this, I would say yes, as a sissy you should expect to be humiliated and embarrassed at some point. It might happen when someone discovers your secret, like when your wife catches you dressed up in women's clothes. Or maybe as the result of a situation that you put yourself in, like hearing teen-aged girls giggle at you as you shop in the lingerie section of a department store. If you are a sissy, and have never been embarrassed because of it, maybe you just aren't trying hard enough!
What do you think dear readers? Is it humiliating or embarrassing to be a sissy? Is being embarrassed at times important in your development as a sissy? Let me know what you think, either in the comments, or in YM or email (firstname.lastname@example.org), or in chat at Club Sissy. Hope to hear from you!
Stay tuned for part two of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, and thanks so much for reading!