Last night I was chatting with a sissy friend at Club Sissy (hi Cindy!) and we had a nice discussion during which some questions came up. I've taken the liberty of paraphrasing our conversation into a "Dear Abby"-style letter and following it up with my thoughts in the form of an answer. Sound like fun? I hope so, here goes...
Dear Happy Sissy,
I have secretly been a sissy for a long time but now I am on the cusp of a life-change. My wife will soon be fully aware that I am a sissy and that I want only to serve her. I am a closet sissy but the door is opening and I will soon be exposed.
First, my wife found my sissy clothes. She did not seem too upset or even very surprised, but I made the mistake of not talking about it and letting her assume that I got rid of my sissy things. Soon after, I actually told her that I want to serve her, but still didn't confess my sissy-hood. The last straw is my shortcomings in the bedroom. I know my sexual performance has been unsatisfactory for some time, but I did everything I could to avoid the issue. It can be avoided no longer. After a recent frustrating encounter, she told me of her dissatisfaction and said we might have to "make other arrangements." She obviously no longer considers me a satisfactory husband. Logically, the next step is obvious: admit to her that I am not a real man, I am a sissy and as such will have to support any "other arrangements" she deems necessary.
The problem is fear. I have no doubt she will accept me as her sissy, but I am afraid of the life changes it will bring about. So fearful that I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband. I don't know if such a thing is possible, but I can't help thinking about it. Sometimes it seems easier to go back than to plunge into the unknowns of sissy life.
What do you think Jackie? Can a sissy go back to being a man? Is it worth even considering? I feel my destiny is as a sissy, but I am still afraid. Is there anything I can do to ease my anxiety about coming changes?
Please help and sign me,
Dear wanna-be-Happy-Sissy Cindy,
First of all, congratulations! I talk to a lot of sissies that would love to be in your Mary Janes. Unfortunately, they feel stuck in the walk-in with little hope of emerging into the light of the vanity mirror. First I will offer my advice and then touch on your questions.
My advice is for you to walk out of that closet in your best outfit, confess your sissyhood, and submit to your wife's service as soon as possible. You ask the question, "Can a sissy go back to being a man?" I think the answer is contained in your line, "...I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband." Do you see it? You know your nature is that of a sissy and the closest you can come to being a real man is just an act. That is no way for a person to live. To be happy, and to make your wife happy, you must be true to your nature as a sissy. There is no going back, you are and always will be a sissy.
As for your anxiety, I'm sure a lot of it concerns the "other arrangements" mentioned by your wife. That is totally understandable, but there is nothing you can do about it except maybe become a super stud in bed. My guess is that is not an option. You could deny your sissy self and try to be a real man, but your wife will remain unhappy, unsatisfied, and ultimately probably leave you. Or, you can take the leap (just be careful in those heels!), submit to her as a sissy, and your relationship has a chance to reach levels of excitement and satisfaction most couples can only dream about.
But the best thing you have going for you is... She already knows you are a sissy! She found your sissy panties, you already told her you want to serve her, and she is aware of your shortcomings in the bedroom. My guess is that she is just watching with amusement as you struggle to come to terms with your true nature and the direction of your marriage.
So, put on your big girl panties and submit to your wife. You are ready and she is ready. Plus, once you do it, a lot of your anxiety will evaporate. That is because, once you are officially her sissy, everything else will be up to her!
Congratulations again, you are well on your way to being a Happy Sissy!
Jackie (the Happy Sissy!)