Questions Sissies Ask - Are Sissies Born Or Are Sissies Made?

A Sissy is Born, or Made?

This one goes back to a conversation I had around the middle of last year with a sissy friend. We touched on the interesting question of when a male actually becomes a sissy. Once again, I have paraphrased our talk as a "Dear Abby" letter and response.

Dear Happy Sissy,

I don't feel like I had a chance at being a man. Even my earliest memories involve wearing my sister's clothes and playing with her dolls. Luckily I had parents, or at least a mother, that was not very bothered. However as I got older I got the impression that it was shameful and I suppressed it. I'm sure it is was assumed that I grew out of it. Well I had not and I never did, even though I tried.

Throughout my teen and young adult years I was outwardly much like any other young man. But whenever I got the chance I would dress up in whatever I could find, borrow (by which I mean steal), or on occasion buy. Ultimately I got married and of course my wife caught me. I threw away all my stuff (again) and promised not to dress up anymore. She caught me again within a year. Now I am a closet sissy even though I tried to steer straight and be a man. I just love dressing up so much and it feels so right but I live in fear of the inevitable next time I get caught.

I can accept my life as a sissy and know that I should tell my wife before she catches me again. But sometimes I wonder, when did I become a sissy? It seems like I have always been a sissy, that I was born this way. Maybe that is why I can't help it. Is that how it was for you? Are sissies born, or made?

Sometimes Happy Sissy Teri

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Dear Sometimes Happy Sissy Teri,

I talk to a lot of sissies and I have heard stories like yours soooo many times, and I never get tired of them! So many sissies have told me similar stories that I think that some males are indeed born sissies. Then again, that is not how it was for me, and I have heard many stories more similar to mine as well.

In my case, I was a man addicted to masturbation that started wearing panties for excitement. Wearing panties became the most exciting way to masturbate and so I expanded on it. But when my wife found my panties and things I still considered myself just a man that wore panties for fun. Miss Barbara steered me toward sissiness until I realized that I am not just a man that likes to wear panties, I really am a sissy!

My point is that it doesn't matter terribly much when a man realizes that he is not a man anymore, or never was, and that he is a sissy. The important thing is that, once he even suspects he is a sissy, she almost certainly is. She should embrace herself as a sissy and find as many ways to express it as possible. And then keep finding ways and having sissy adventures until she doesn't even remember what it is like to be a man anymore.

In your case Teri, you are going to have to tell your wife, and soon. If she catches you again she will be more upset that you are a chronic liar than that you are a sissy, and your marriage could be over. I know and hate to mention that it could be over anyway, but my guess is that she already knows you are a sissy, this just confirms it, and you can get on with the next phase of your marriage.

Good luck sissy Teri! I think things will work out so you can sign "Always Happy Sissy Teri."

Love,

Jackie (The Happy Sissy!)

Questions Sissies Ask - Is There Any Going Back?

Last night I was chatting with a sissy friend at Club Sissy (hi Cindy!) and we had a nice discussion during which some questions came up. I've taken the liberty of paraphrasing our conversation into a "Dear Abby"-style letter and following it up with my thoughts in the form of an answer. Sound like fun? I hope so, here goes...

Dear Happy Sissy,

I have secretly been a sissy for a long time but now I am on the cusp of a life-change. My wife will soon be fully aware that I am a sissy and that I want only to serve her. I am a closet sissy but the door is opening and I will soon be exposed.

First, my wife found my sissy clothes. She did not seem too upset or even very surprised, but I made the mistake of not talking about it and letting her assume that I got rid of my sissy things. Soon after, I actually told her that I want to serve her, but still didn't confess my sissy-hood. The last straw is my shortcomings in the bedroom. I know my sexual performance has been unsatisfactory for some time, but I did everything I could to avoid the issue. It can be avoided no longer. After a recent frustrating encounter, she told me of her dissatisfaction and said we might have to "make other arrangements." She obviously no longer considers me a satisfactory husband. Logically, the next step is obvious: admit to her that I am not a real man, I am a sissy and as such will have to support any "other arrangements" she deems necessary.

The problem is fear. I have no doubt she will accept me as her sissy, but I am afraid of the life changes it will bring about. So fearful that I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband. I don't know if such a thing is possible, but I can't help thinking about it. Sometimes it seems easier to go back than to plunge into the unknowns of sissy life.

What do you think Jackie? Can a sissy go back to being a man? Is it worth even considering? I feel my destiny is as a sissy, but I am still afraid. Is there anything I can do to ease my anxiety about coming changes?

Please help and sign me,
wanna-be-Happy-Sissy cindy

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Dear wanna-be-Happy-Sissy Cindy,

First of all, congratulations! I talk to a lot of sissies that would love to be in your Mary Janes. Unfortunately, they feel stuck in the walk-in with little hope of emerging into the light of the vanity mirror. First I will offer my advice and then touch on your questions.

My advice is for you to walk out of that closet in your best outfit, confess your sissyhood, and submit to your wife's service as soon as possible. You ask the question, "Can a sissy go back to being a man?" I think the answer is contained in your line, "...I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband." Do you see it? You know your nature is that of a sissy and the closest you can come to being a real man is just an act. That is no way for a person to live. To be happy, and to make your wife happy, you must be true to your nature as a sissy. There is no going back, you are and always will be a sissy.

As for your anxiety, I'm sure a lot of it concerns the "other arrangements" mentioned by your wife. That is totally understandable, but there is nothing you can do about it except maybe become a super stud in bed. My guess is that is not an option. You could deny your sissy self and try to be a real man, but your wife will remain unhappy, unsatisfied, and ultimately probably leave you. Or, you can take the leap (just be careful in those heels!), submit to her as a sissy, and your relationship has a chance to reach levels of excitement and satisfaction most couples can only dream about.

But the best thing you have going for you is... She already knows you are a sissy! She found your sissy panties, you already told her you want to serve her, and she is aware of your shortcomings in the bedroom. My guess is that she is just watching with amusement as you struggle to come to terms with your true nature and the direction of your marriage.

So, put on your big girl panties and submit to your wife. You are ready and she is ready. Plus, once you do it, a lot of your anxiety will evaporate. That is because, once you are officially her sissy, everything else will be up to her!

Congratulations again, you are well on your way to being a Happy Sissy!

Love,
Jackie (the Happy Sissy!)

These Are a Few of My Favorite (Sissy!) Things

Hi sissies! If you have been following my blog, you know I have been raising sissy visibility, and having a lot of fun, at Amazon.com. Oh, a quick update, my review of the Vanity Fair Lace Nouveau panties now has 24 "helpful" ratings! It is by far the highest rated review and very visible on the product page. Thanks everybody!

Well, now I have created a public list, which they call a "Listmania" list, called Jackie's Happy Sissy List. It is a fun list of various products which I picked out to help happy sissies be even happier sissies! Many of the products I have or use myself, some I might want to try, others are just fun sissy products. I have also been reading sissy literature from Amazon on my Kindle so I might be putting recommended reading materials for sissies too.

Let me know what you think of my list. Any ideas about what I just must add to make a sissy happy? Once again, here is the link to the list:

Jackie's Happy Sissy List

One thing, I haven't seen a good way to find the Listmania lists at Amazon, so it may be that nobody will be able to find it while just browsing around. But at least my sissy friends and followers will be able to see it!

So thanks for reading to all of my sissy friends, I love you all so much! Until next time, enjoy (sissy) life and be Happy Sissies!