For the fifth and final part of this series about sissies and humiliation I want to tie up some loose ends that didn't seem to fit in any of the other entries.
For one thing, I have not addressed the idea of humiliation as a fetish. Many people, and not just sissies, enjoy and get a sexual charge from humiliation. I am well aware of this and have of course felt the rush of euphoria in the aftermath of humiliation myself. But humiliation as a fetish is not really what this series was meant to be about.
What I get from humiliation can best be described as a sense of accomplishment. It generally means that I have exposed myself, or been exposed in some way, as a sissy. It means that I have overcome inhibitions and ingrained attitudes about femininity and have thus reduced my masculinity. In my own mind, and hopefully in the eyes of others, I have become less of a man, more of a sissy. And if I am lucky, my own loss of masculinity might somehow lead to a loss of masculinity for some other male or an increase in empowerment for a female. Anything that I can do to change the balance of power in society is important. Every little bit helps. Every sissy should keep this in mind.
There is also the matter of public exposure for the expressed purpose of humiliation. I believe that a sissy has a right to express herself anywhere, even in public. However, I also feel that it is not proper to bring unwilling participants into one's own fetish or sexual activity. Admittedly, this can cause some gray areas.
My advice is just to use good judgement. Is it okay to walk through a mall in a frilly sissy dress, exposing ruffled panties for the singular purpose of being humiliated? I'm thinking not so much. Is it okay to wear feminine clothes in public? Of course it is. Once again, a sissy has a right to be herself. It if is something a woman could legitimately wear in public, a male, a sissy, can wear it too. This might still cause the sissy some embarrassment, but it is not the expressed purpose.
So, I think I have come to the end of my series about humiliation and the sissy. I hope you liked it! If you think of anything I missed, or have any observations about what I have written, don't hesitate to let me know.
Thanks so much for reading!
Saturday, December 8, 2012
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 4 - Being a Sissy... is Not for Sissies!
In this fourth part of my series about sissies and humiliation I want to stress the idea that sissies can be considered courageous for inviting and enduring humiliation. I want to point out how this courage on the part of sissies belies one of the most common usages of the word "sissy."
The first definition of "sissy" in my dictionary is "an effeminate boy or man." Fair enough, however another definition is "a timid or cowardly person." My view is that for the sissy to be herself, that is "an effeminate male," especially in public, she can't be timid or cowardly.
It takes a certain amount of nerve for a male to shop openly in the lingerie section of a department store because, as I have pointed out, everyone knows the panties are for you. Somebody might laugh at you. It takes even more nerve to openly shop for feminine clothes like dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Especially if you accept assistance from the sales staff or ask to try things on. They might talk about you behind your back. In fact, they almost certainly will. True, these activities are low risk from a physical standpoint, but there is a high risk of being embarrassed, but that is still risk. Facing risk is not something a "timid or cowardly person" does.
And sissies might risk humiliation in an endless number of other ways and to many different degrees. How about publicly wearing a bra under a t-shirt? What about a doctor visit when you decide to be yourself and wear panties? Or, more seriously, telling your wife what was, up to that point, your secret? Now that takes nerve. These are good things from the important standpoint of publicizing the existence of sissies and of living your life, and they all take varying amounts of courage.
Being a sissy is generally not a choice, some males are just not cut out to be "real men." Some sissies think they are real men until an enlightened and enlightening woman exposes their true self for them. But are you really a sissy unless someone else sees you as a sissy? I am not sure that you are. I think the more that other people see you and realize that you are a sissy, the more of a sissy you are. And allowing people to see that you are a sissy takes courage. Therefore, being an effeminate male is not for the timid or cowardly.
In other words, being a sissy is not for sissies!
I think I have one more entry left in the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, a few loose ends to tie up. Until next time, let me know of any other typical examples of sissy courage that you might think of, or of examples of courage in your own life of which you are especially proud. And until next time, thanks for reading!
The first definition of "sissy" in my dictionary is "an effeminate boy or man." Fair enough, however another definition is "a timid or cowardly person." My view is that for the sissy to be herself, that is "an effeminate male," especially in public, she can't be timid or cowardly.
It takes a certain amount of nerve for a male to shop openly in the lingerie section of a department store because, as I have pointed out, everyone knows the panties are for you. Somebody might laugh at you. It takes even more nerve to openly shop for feminine clothes like dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Especially if you accept assistance from the sales staff or ask to try things on. They might talk about you behind your back. In fact, they almost certainly will. True, these activities are low risk from a physical standpoint, but there is a high risk of being embarrassed, but that is still risk. Facing risk is not something a "timid or cowardly person" does.
And sissies might risk humiliation in an endless number of other ways and to many different degrees. How about publicly wearing a bra under a t-shirt? What about a doctor visit when you decide to be yourself and wear panties? Or, more seriously, telling your wife what was, up to that point, your secret? Now that takes nerve. These are good things from the important standpoint of publicizing the existence of sissies and of living your life, and they all take varying amounts of courage.
Being a sissy is generally not a choice, some males are just not cut out to be "real men." Some sissies think they are real men until an enlightened and enlightening woman exposes their true self for them. But are you really a sissy unless someone else sees you as a sissy? I am not sure that you are. I think the more that other people see you and realize that you are a sissy, the more of a sissy you are. And allowing people to see that you are a sissy takes courage. Therefore, being an effeminate male is not for the timid or cowardly.
In other words, being a sissy is not for sissies!
I think I have one more entry left in the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, a few loose ends to tie up. Until next time, let me know of any other typical examples of sissy courage that you might think of, or of examples of courage in your own life of which you are especially proud. And until next time, thanks for reading!
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 3 - Humiliation Makes it Easier to be a Sissy
For the third part in this series I want to talk more about how sissies benefit from humiliation. I also want to touch on something I feel is important to recognize: It takes courage for a sissy to risk embarrassment, and continue on in the face of it. In other words, being a sissy is not for sissies!
I ended the last article in this series by saying that humiliation "makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy." This probably requires a bit of explanation. I understand that it could be argued that humiliation is what makes it hard to be a sissy. After all, if a sissy was not afraid of being embarrassed, there would be nothing stopping her. She could be as sissy as she wanted in any situation. But the answer lies within the argument: it is not humiliation that makes it a challenge to be a sissy, it is the fear of humiliation. The truth is, experiencing humiliation makes it easier to be a sissy because, once you experience humiliation in a given situation, that situation becomes less scary. A few examples...
I was embarrassed when I first went shopping for panties, now I enjoy it even though I realize that everybody knows the panties are for me (see this earlier entry). I was embarrassed when my wife first saw me in a maid uniform, now I find it fulfilling for her to approve my appearance and compliment me on chores well done. I was mortified when Miss Barbara's mother walked in on me cleaning in a housekeeping dress, now I take pride in spending a day at her house, in full maid uniform, and getting it as spotless as it can be. The first time I went jogging in a running skirt a group of three female runners, two of whom I actually knew, burst out in laughter at the sight of me. I felt like hiding and almost turned back. But I kept going and now I might jog past a dozen people on a run and not worry, even as they sometimes giggle and point.
In all of these cases, being a sissy became easier after being initially humiliating. I think being embarrassed is probably the most effective way for a sissy to grow. But the truth is, it has been a while since I have been embarrassed to be a sissy. On one hand, I can see how this is a good thing. It shows acceptance of myself as a sissy and, at least in some situations, acceptance that others see me as a sissy too. On the other hand, maybe I've gotten too comfortable. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. Maybe I need to have more courage.
Courage? What would a sissy know about courage? Well, putting yourself into a situation where you might be humiliated is not natural. Your palms sweat, your hands shake, your voice might not be steady, you get nervous. You may have experienced the feeling of your mind screaming for you to run away to safety. But courage is not not being afraid, courage is being afraid but continuing on. It takes courage to expose yourself to humiliation. That is why I say that, oddly enough, "Being a sissy... is not for sissies!"
I'll talk more about the courage of sissies in part four of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Has humiliation made it easier for you to be a sissy? Or, has it made it harder? Do you feel courageous as a sissy? Have you seen or heard about a sissy doing something that takes courage? See you soon and thanks again for reading!
I ended the last article in this series by saying that humiliation "makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy." This probably requires a bit of explanation. I understand that it could be argued that humiliation is what makes it hard to be a sissy. After all, if a sissy was not afraid of being embarrassed, there would be nothing stopping her. She could be as sissy as she wanted in any situation. But the answer lies within the argument: it is not humiliation that makes it a challenge to be a sissy, it is the fear of humiliation. The truth is, experiencing humiliation makes it easier to be a sissy because, once you experience humiliation in a given situation, that situation becomes less scary. A few examples...
I was embarrassed when I first went shopping for panties, now I enjoy it even though I realize that everybody knows the panties are for me (see this earlier entry). I was embarrassed when my wife first saw me in a maid uniform, now I find it fulfilling for her to approve my appearance and compliment me on chores well done. I was mortified when Miss Barbara's mother walked in on me cleaning in a housekeeping dress, now I take pride in spending a day at her house, in full maid uniform, and getting it as spotless as it can be. The first time I went jogging in a running skirt a group of three female runners, two of whom I actually knew, burst out in laughter at the sight of me. I felt like hiding and almost turned back. But I kept going and now I might jog past a dozen people on a run and not worry, even as they sometimes giggle and point.
In all of these cases, being a sissy became easier after being initially humiliating. I think being embarrassed is probably the most effective way for a sissy to grow. But the truth is, it has been a while since I have been embarrassed to be a sissy. On one hand, I can see how this is a good thing. It shows acceptance of myself as a sissy and, at least in some situations, acceptance that others see me as a sissy too. On the other hand, maybe I've gotten too comfortable. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. Maybe I need to have more courage.
Courage? What would a sissy know about courage? Well, putting yourself into a situation where you might be humiliated is not natural. Your palms sweat, your hands shake, your voice might not be steady, you get nervous. You may have experienced the feeling of your mind screaming for you to run away to safety. But courage is not not being afraid, courage is being afraid but continuing on. It takes courage to expose yourself to humiliation. That is why I say that, oddly enough, "Being a sissy... is not for sissies!"
I'll talk more about the courage of sissies in part four of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Has humiliation made it easier for you to be a sissy? Or, has it made it harder? Do you feel courageous as a sissy? Have you seen or heard about a sissy doing something that takes courage? See you soon and thanks again for reading!
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