Questions Sissies Ask - Is There Any Going Back?

Last night I was chatting with a sissy friend at Club Sissy (hi Cindy!) and we had a nice discussion during which some questions came up. I've taken the liberty of paraphrasing our conversation into a "Dear Abby"-style letter and following it up with my thoughts in the form of an answer. Sound like fun? I hope so, here goes...

Dear Happy Sissy,

I have secretly been a sissy for a long time but now I am on the cusp of a life-change. My wife will soon be fully aware that I am a sissy and that I want only to serve her. I am a closet sissy but the door is opening and I will soon be exposed.

First, my wife found my sissy clothes. She did not seem too upset or even very surprised, but I made the mistake of not talking about it and letting her assume that I got rid of my sissy things. Soon after, I actually told her that I want to serve her, but still didn't confess my sissy-hood. The last straw is my shortcomings in the bedroom. I know my sexual performance has been unsatisfactory for some time, but I did everything I could to avoid the issue. It can be avoided no longer. After a recent frustrating encounter, she told me of her dissatisfaction and said we might have to "make other arrangements." She obviously no longer considers me a satisfactory husband. Logically, the next step is obvious: admit to her that I am not a real man, I am a sissy and as such will have to support any "other arrangements" she deems necessary.

The problem is fear. I have no doubt she will accept me as her sissy, but I am afraid of the life changes it will bring about. So fearful that I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband. I don't know if such a thing is possible, but I can't help thinking about it. Sometimes it seems easier to go back than to plunge into the unknowns of sissy life.

What do you think Jackie? Can a sissy go back to being a man? Is it worth even considering? I feel my destiny is as a sissy, but I am still afraid. Is there anything I can do to ease my anxiety about coming changes?

Please help and sign me,
wanna-be-Happy-Sissy cindy

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Dear wanna-be-Happy-Sissy Cindy,

First of all, congratulations! I talk to a lot of sissies that would love to be in your Mary Janes. Unfortunately, they feel stuck in the walk-in with little hope of emerging into the light of the vanity mirror. First I will offer my advice and then touch on your questions.

My advice is for you to walk out of that closet in your best outfit, confess your sissyhood, and submit to your wife's service as soon as possible. You ask the question, "Can a sissy go back to being a man?" I think the answer is contained in your line, "...I sometimes think I should deny my sissy nature, act like a real man, and try to be a good husband." Do you see it? You know your nature is that of a sissy and the closest you can come to being a real man is just an act. That is no way for a person to live. To be happy, and to make your wife happy, you must be true to your nature as a sissy. There is no going back, you are and always will be a sissy.

As for your anxiety, I'm sure a lot of it concerns the "other arrangements" mentioned by your wife. That is totally understandable, but there is nothing you can do about it except maybe become a super stud in bed. My guess is that is not an option. You could deny your sissy self and try to be a real man, but your wife will remain unhappy, unsatisfied, and ultimately probably leave you. Or, you can take the leap (just be careful in those heels!), submit to her as a sissy, and your relationship has a chance to reach levels of excitement and satisfaction most couples can only dream about.

But the best thing you have going for you is... She already knows you are a sissy! She found your sissy panties, you already told her you want to serve her, and she is aware of your shortcomings in the bedroom. My guess is that she is just watching with amusement as you struggle to come to terms with your true nature and the direction of your marriage.

So, put on your big girl panties and submit to your wife. You are ready and she is ready. Plus, once you do it, a lot of your anxiety will evaporate. That is because, once you are officially her sissy, everything else will be up to her!

Congratulations again, you are well on your way to being a Happy Sissy!

Love,
Jackie (the Happy Sissy!)

These Are a Few of My Favorite (Sissy!) Things

Hi sissies! If you have been following my blog, you know I have been raising sissy visibility, and having a lot of fun, at Amazon.com. Oh, a quick update, my review of the Vanity Fair Lace Nouveau panties now has 24 "helpful" ratings! It is by far the highest rated review and very visible on the product page. Thanks everybody!

Well, now I have created a public list, which they call a "Listmania" list, called Jackie's Happy Sissy List. It is a fun list of various products which I picked out to help happy sissies be even happier sissies! Many of the products I have or use myself, some I might want to try, others are just fun sissy products. I have also been reading sissy literature from Amazon on my Kindle so I might be putting recommended reading materials for sissies too.

Let me know what you think of my list. Any ideas about what I just must add to make a sissy happy? Once again, here is the link to the list:

Jackie's Happy Sissy List

One thing, I haven't seen a good way to find the Listmania lists at Amazon, so it may be that nobody will be able to find it while just browsing around. But at least my sissy friends and followers will be able to see it!

So thanks for reading to all of my sissy friends, I love you all so much! Until next time, enjoy (sissy) life and be Happy Sissies!

Just A Worthless Sissy? - I Don't Think So!

In the online world of sissies I come across the phrase "just a worthless sissy" a lot. Something like, "I accepted that I was just a worthless sissy," or "She tells me that I am just a worthless sissy." When I read such things I always want to say, "You may be a sissy, but you are not worthless! She needs to know that, and more importantly, you need to know that!"

First and foremost, if you are a male, and sissies are males (sad but true, I know), it still doesn't mean you have to be a man to be of value. In fact, given the damage male domination has inflicted on society in general and women in particular, I think a sissy is more valuable to society than a real man! Plus, the sissy can be even more important depending on where she lives. For instance, every sissy living in a strict, male-dominated society such as India, Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Indonesia, or the Philippines (all places from which I know sissies) is critical in spreading the cause of feminization.

I understand that the "worthless sissy" sentiment might be a natural response. Natural to a wife that has discovered her husband, someone she formally regarded as masculine, dressed up in lingerie and masturbating into panties. She feels shocked and betrayed, remembers the nagging, unspoken questions that lurk in her mind, "Why doesn't he express the interest in sex that he used to? Why, when we do have sex, is his energy and endurance always so low? Where did those panties under the bed come from?" Suddenly her questions are answered and the image of her husband shatters as she catches him dressed up and cumming in a pair of panties. "I thought I was married to a man but now I find out he's just a worthless sissy!" Who can blame her if this is her first reaction?

The "worthless sissy" sentiment might even come from a sissy herself, a sissy raised with society's ideal of what a "real man" should be, but who can't live up to it. He tries, sometimes even throwing away every item of female clothes he has been hiding, but he just can't do it. Soon he finds himself dressed up in pretty lingerie, panties soaked again. A male in this situation might think, "I tried to be a real man, but I just can't. I guess I'm just a worthless sissy!"

These reactions may be understandable, but there is just one problem... they are wrong! Hopefully the wife will read my series about what a woman should do if she catches her man in panties (Caught Your Husband in Panties?). If she does, she will see that finding out she has a sissy hubby is the best thing that could happen! How worthless will she think her sissy is when she is inspecting her spotless kitchen as the sissy stands by, eyes down? When she realizes that she is a queen in her home and her word is law? When it really sinks in that she can have any kind of marriage she wants? If the woman will take charge, be patient and understanding, and shape the sissy to her will, she will see that a sissy is far from worthless.

And if you are a sissy and ever find yourself thinking that you are "just a worthless sissy," well stop! Do not purge. Do not throw your sissy treasures away, it won't help. Sissy things are not what make you a sissy. You will still be a sissy after the things are gone and soon you will be buying more. If you feel worthless, find a way to be a better sissy! Practice your makeup, clean the bathroom, buy some nice panties, you can always do something to make yourself into a happy sissy.

Above all just remember, in this rough, male-dominated (for now) world, the sissy may not be the "average male," but she is the average male of the future, feminized world. Today's sissy is ahead of her time, less common and more special, and far more valuable as a result.

So sissies, hold you head up and be proud! Unless, that is, you are standing before your Mistress, in which case you should probably keep your eyes down... but be proud! Sissies are not worthless at all!

So thanks again for reading. Get in touch in any of the usual ways. Leave a comment if you feel like it. Link my blog in your blog and I will return the favor. And above all (you know it's coming)... be Happy Sissies!