When we first got married it had been quite some time since I had worn panties or any other women's clothes. It was something I remembered doing when I was a boy and as a teenager, but I had kind of forgotten about it or gotten away from it in late high school and college, when I started dating. I met Barbara in college, we fell in love and got married two years after we started dating.
During a period early in our marriage I was working at nights and she was working during the day and we saw each other mostly on weekends. It was also during that time that I overindulged in masturbation and pornography. After a year or so of this I came to realize that I often was not fantasizing about having sex with the women in the pics or the videos, I fantasized about being those women! It was soon after that that I felt the need to wear panties again. I tried Barbara's but they were too small. I finally got up my nerve and started buying panties for myself for the first time.
Fast forward a couple of years and we are living in Florida a half mile from the beach. We were then both working days but I still was addicted to masturbation and wearing panties and other items when I could get away with it. I especially loved running with panties on under my short half split running shorts. I had accumulated quite a collection and it was getting hard to hide. I knew that something would have to give. Either I would just have to tell her or let her find out and then tell her, I barely even considered not wearing panties.
It was during the time that I was trying to come up with a good way to tell her that a huge hurricane decided to head directly toward us out of the Atlantic and our area received the evacuation order. We secured the house, packed up a few important things and some clothes and headed inland with about a million other people. I packed some of my favorite panties in with my clothes and actually threw the rest away. I remember how many it was, thirteen pairs. But luckily, as will be seen later, they were wrapped in a plastic shopping bag.
You can probably see it coming. We ended up in a hotel room with fourteen people total, men, women and children. At some point Barb needed something from my bag and when she went to get it, she found a few pairs of pretty, sexy panties! The next day we were running an errand in the small, refugee-packed city and she said, "Oh, I found the panties in your suitcase. Are they your girlfriend's?"
Needless to say I was caught by surprise, like all men whose wives find such things. I somehow dodged the question but of course it was all I could think about for the next couple of days even as we stayed busy and worried about our house near the ocean and the hurricane. We acted as if nothing happened during that time but I knew I would have to face the question soon.
Luckily, the brunt of the hurricane missed our area and we were soon back home. The discovery hung between us for about another week before I decided to confess all. And I'll go into that next time!
I will continue the story in segments that I will try to keep short. As such, I can't go into detail about every little thing. If you want to more know about any specific aspect, let me know and I'll try to expand on it. Until then, thanks for reading!
Monday, May 30, 2011
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Put the "Maid" Back into "Sissy Maid"
By definition, you have to be a sissy to be a sissy maid. It would go without saying, except that saying it is such fun! Indeed, being a sissy is the really fun part of being a sissy maid. You get to wear your pretty panties and stockings, your frilly maid uniform, the make up and wig and jewelry, and of course, the shoes. In short, you get to dress up! But the "sissy" part is only half of the sissy maid equation. The other half is, of course, the "maid" part.
Acting as a maid can give a sissy purpose. Think about it, you can dress up all you want, but if you don't go out in public, what is the purpose? Sure, it is fun to dress up and play with makeup when you are home by yourself, but the novelty can wear off. So, what can a "girl" do? She can become a sissy maid!
If you have fun dressing up, you can have just as much fun dressing up as a maid. And if you dress up as a maid, you can be an actual maid! What does a maid do? What is her purpose? Well, she does useful work serving the needs of her employer. And who is the employer of your average sissy maid? Why, her wife of course!
A sissy acting as a maid in the service of her wife has advantages for both the sissy and the wife. For one thing, a wife might not exactly be thrilled when she first discovers that her husband is a sissy. But if a wife sees advantages to herself, it can go a long way toward helping her to accept, or even encourage, the situation. An advantage for the wife (help with the housework) brings an advantage for the sissy (a wife's acceptance of cross dressing at home).
But problems can occur if the sissy leaves the "maid" out of "sissy maid". Some sissy maids seem to feel that it is enough to get dressed up in a frilly maid outfit and petticoat and prance around the house, serving her wife drinks or coffee and getting a spanking if she has been "bad". This can be frustrating to the wife because the sissy maid is pretending to be of service but she is really doing nothing useful. Even if the wife plays along with this scenario at first, it can quickly become tiresome and seem like just another household chore.
It order to avoid this, the sissy maid must actually do maid work, and do it to the standards of a true maid. She must clean the kitchen and bathrooms, and they must be spotless. She must dust, mop, vacuum and yes, do windows. The sissy maid must ask her wife what chores she wants done, and then she must do those chores to a high standard. A sissy maid's wife should come to take for granted that the maid will do any chore that she specifies, and the maid must take it for granted that she will do any chores that her wife requests.
A few suggestions for true sissy maids:
1) While you are in "maid mode", your wife is not your wife, she is your Mistress (as in the dictionary definition of "a woman who has power, authority, or ownership; a female master). Refer to her only as "Miss" and her first name. Encourage her to refer to you only with your sissy name.
2) Get a practical maid or housecleaning outfit. Sure the frilly maid outfit and the high heels are fun, but a practical maid outfit is much better for real housework. It is still fun to dress up in a practical housekeeping dress and much more useful for doing chores. It is perfectly okay to have both types of outfit for different circumstances. A good site from which to get a practical housecleaning outfit is www.tipsuniforms.com.
3) Encourage your wife (Mistress) to create task lists for you when she is going to be away from home. Then dress up and carry out each task on the list to the highest standards. If you finish the list, find other things that need to be done and keep working. Your Mistress will be very pleased when she comes home.
4) Spend time learning the best ways to carry out housekeeping chores. Visit sites such as www.housekeepingchannel.com. Keep up with the best products for different tasks and keep them stocked up in your home for when "the maid comes in".
5) Have fun! Get satisfaction from your service and for a job well done.
Do you have any other ideas for keeping the "maid" in "sissy maid"? If so, post them in the comments section for all of us sissy maids to read!
Acting as a maid can give a sissy purpose. Think about it, you can dress up all you want, but if you don't go out in public, what is the purpose? Sure, it is fun to dress up and play with makeup when you are home by yourself, but the novelty can wear off. So, what can a "girl" do? She can become a sissy maid!
If you have fun dressing up, you can have just as much fun dressing up as a maid. And if you dress up as a maid, you can be an actual maid! What does a maid do? What is her purpose? Well, she does useful work serving the needs of her employer. And who is the employer of your average sissy maid? Why, her wife of course!
A sissy acting as a maid in the service of her wife has advantages for both the sissy and the wife. For one thing, a wife might not exactly be thrilled when she first discovers that her husband is a sissy. But if a wife sees advantages to herself, it can go a long way toward helping her to accept, or even encourage, the situation. An advantage for the wife (help with the housework) brings an advantage for the sissy (a wife's acceptance of cross dressing at home).
But problems can occur if the sissy leaves the "maid" out of "sissy maid". Some sissy maids seem to feel that it is enough to get dressed up in a frilly maid outfit and petticoat and prance around the house, serving her wife drinks or coffee and getting a spanking if she has been "bad". This can be frustrating to the wife because the sissy maid is pretending to be of service but she is really doing nothing useful. Even if the wife plays along with this scenario at first, it can quickly become tiresome and seem like just another household chore.
It order to avoid this, the sissy maid must actually do maid work, and do it to the standards of a true maid. She must clean the kitchen and bathrooms, and they must be spotless. She must dust, mop, vacuum and yes, do windows. The sissy maid must ask her wife what chores she wants done, and then she must do those chores to a high standard. A sissy maid's wife should come to take for granted that the maid will do any chore that she specifies, and the maid must take it for granted that she will do any chores that her wife requests.
A few suggestions for true sissy maids:
1) While you are in "maid mode", your wife is not your wife, she is your Mistress (as in the dictionary definition of "a woman who has power, authority, or ownership; a female master). Refer to her only as "Miss" and her first name. Encourage her to refer to you only with your sissy name.
2) Get a practical maid or housecleaning outfit. Sure the frilly maid outfit and the high heels are fun, but a practical maid outfit is much better for real housework. It is still fun to dress up in a practical housekeeping dress and much more useful for doing chores. It is perfectly okay to have both types of outfit for different circumstances. A good site from which to get a practical housecleaning outfit is www.tipsuniforms.com.
3) Encourage your wife (Mistress) to create task lists for you when she is going to be away from home. Then dress up and carry out each task on the list to the highest standards. If you finish the list, find other things that need to be done and keep working. Your Mistress will be very pleased when she comes home.
4) Spend time learning the best ways to carry out housekeeping chores. Visit sites such as www.housekeepingchannel.com. Keep up with the best products for different tasks and keep them stocked up in your home for when "the maid comes in".
5) Have fun! Get satisfaction from your service and for a job well done.
Do you have any other ideas for keeping the "maid" in "sissy maid"? If so, post them in the comments section for all of us sissy maids to read!
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Caught Your Husband in Panties... Now What? (Part 6)
This is the sixth article of a series about what a woman might do if she finds out that her husband (or boyfriend) secretly wears womens clothes. Up to now, I have mostly addressed how she should react to and confront him with the discovery. Now I will get into how she might proceed going into the future of the relationship.
So, how do you respond if he promises never to do anything like whatever you caught him doing ever again? Since it is likely to be the first thing he tells you, say something non-committal like, "We'll come back to that." Then take control of the discussion and proceed as outlined in previous articles. That way you will accomplish some important things before you address the promise.
Among these are knowing about the extent of his habit and coming to a mutual "understanding" that he was expressing a feminine side. Once you have reached this "understanding" (the most important thing) and come to the end of discussing his past and present activities (in as much detail as possible), you can move on to the next step.
And now, at long last, we are coming to the end of this series. That is because the next steps are largely up to you (and by "you" I mean the woman that is in this situation). The only thing left is pass on a few points based on Miss Carolyn's beliefs.
It is important to understand that Miss Carolyn is a believer in the idea that feminization is beneficial at all levels from the personal to the societal. With that in mind, you can understand why she sees this sort of situation as a golden opportunity.
The first point is that you should definitely not take him up on any "never again" promise. He is highly unlikely to be able to keep it anyway. If and when he makes such a promise, say something like, "I know you believe that, but didn't you just say that you were expressing a feminine part of yourself? Is that just going to go away? I think that will always be a sissy."
The idea is that you should be the one in control and direct his feminization in ways that fit with your needs and desires. I touched on a few possibilities in a past article and hopefully you gave it some thought. If not, don't worry, you can get started now and develop ideas as you go along.
You could allow him to continue his sissy activities out of sight, but this is not recommended because you will lose both the control and the benefits of the situation. Also, it is divisive. Neither of you wants to feel that he is waiting to be left alone so that he can engage in some deep, dark activity. It may work for a while, but it will lead to the weakening and breakdown of the relationship. On the other hand, your control and direction of his feminization will ultimately be very satisfying, and even fun, for both of you.
A full discussion of feminization is beyond the scope of this series but I can pass along a few basics for getting started. First, get the sissy into panties. Panties of his own, that he purchases himself. The ideal is the "24/7" goal, meaning that he is always in panties and does not even own any "boy underwear".
Second, pick out a sissy name. Use a feminine version of his own name or another one entirely. You can ask him if he already has one and, if not, give him one. Develop his sissy persona using this name and always refer to this persona as "she" or "her".
It is also good to talk about your experiences with one or more of your close friends, or even your mother. Who knows? They might surprise you with similar stories of their own. You can tell your sissy about these discussions, but leave him in doubt about with whom they have taken place.
And finally, you can use the internet to research feminization, female superiority, etc. You can meet and get ideas from other women and sissies. Just remember, use it for reference but don't believe everything you see!
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So there you have it. The end of a series that turned out to be much longer than I imagined. I have enjoyed the writing and all of the discussion, public and private, that has resulted. Thanks so much to all of my readers!
So, how do you respond if he promises never to do anything like whatever you caught him doing ever again? Since it is likely to be the first thing he tells you, say something non-committal like, "We'll come back to that." Then take control of the discussion and proceed as outlined in previous articles. That way you will accomplish some important things before you address the promise.
Among these are knowing about the extent of his habit and coming to a mutual "understanding" that he was expressing a feminine side. Once you have reached this "understanding" (the most important thing) and come to the end of discussing his past and present activities (in as much detail as possible), you can move on to the next step.
And now, at long last, we are coming to the end of this series. That is because the next steps are largely up to you (and by "you" I mean the woman that is in this situation). The only thing left is pass on a few points based on Miss Carolyn's beliefs.
It is important to understand that Miss Carolyn is a believer in the idea that feminization is beneficial at all levels from the personal to the societal. With that in mind, you can understand why she sees this sort of situation as a golden opportunity.
The first point is that you should definitely not take him up on any "never again" promise. He is highly unlikely to be able to keep it anyway. If and when he makes such a promise, say something like, "I know you believe that, but didn't you just say that you were expressing a feminine part of yourself? Is that just going to go away? I think that will always be a sissy."
The idea is that you should be the one in control and direct his feminization in ways that fit with your needs and desires. I touched on a few possibilities in a past article and hopefully you gave it some thought. If not, don't worry, you can get started now and develop ideas as you go along.
You could allow him to continue his sissy activities out of sight, but this is not recommended because you will lose both the control and the benefits of the situation. Also, it is divisive. Neither of you wants to feel that he is waiting to be left alone so that he can engage in some deep, dark activity. It may work for a while, but it will lead to the weakening and breakdown of the relationship. On the other hand, your control and direction of his feminization will ultimately be very satisfying, and even fun, for both of you.
A full discussion of feminization is beyond the scope of this series but I can pass along a few basics for getting started. First, get the sissy into panties. Panties of his own, that he purchases himself. The ideal is the "24/7" goal, meaning that he is always in panties and does not even own any "boy underwear".
Second, pick out a sissy name. Use a feminine version of his own name or another one entirely. You can ask him if he already has one and, if not, give him one. Develop his sissy persona using this name and always refer to this persona as "she" or "her".
It is also good to talk about your experiences with one or more of your close friends, or even your mother. Who knows? They might surprise you with similar stories of their own. You can tell your sissy about these discussions, but leave him in doubt about with whom they have taken place.
And finally, you can use the internet to research feminization, female superiority, etc. You can meet and get ideas from other women and sissies. Just remember, use it for reference but don't believe everything you see!
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So there you have it. The end of a series that turned out to be much longer than I imagined. I have enjoyed the writing and all of the discussion, public and private, that has resulted. Thanks so much to all of my readers!
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