In this fourth part of my series about sissies and humiliation I want to stress the idea that sissies can be considered courageous for inviting and enduring humiliation. I want to point out how this courage on the part of sissies belies one of the most common usages of the word "sissy."
The first definition of "sissy" in my dictionary is "an effeminate boy or man." Fair enough, however another definition is "a timid or cowardly person." My view is that for the sissy to be herself, that is "an effeminate male," especially in public, she can't be timid or cowardly.
It takes a certain amount of nerve for a male to shop openly in the lingerie section of a department store because, as I have pointed out, everyone knows the panties are for you. Somebody might laugh at you. It takes even more nerve to openly shop for feminine clothes like dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Especially if you accept assistance from the sales staff or ask to try things on. They might talk about you behind your back. In fact, they almost certainly will. True, these activities are low risk from a physical standpoint, but there is a high risk of being embarrassed, but that is still risk. Facing risk is not something a "timid or cowardly person" does.
And sissies might risk humiliation in an endless number of other ways and to many different degrees. How about publicly wearing a bra under a t-shirt? What about a doctor visit when you decide to be yourself and wear panties? Or, more seriously, telling your wife what was, up to that point, your secret? Now that takes nerve. These are good things from the important standpoint of publicizing the existence of sissies and of living your life, and they all take varying amounts of courage.
Being a sissy is generally not a choice, some males are just not cut out to be "real men." Some sissies think they are real men until an enlightened and enlightening woman exposes their true self for them. But are you really a sissy unless someone else sees you as a sissy? I am not sure that you are. I think the more that other people see you and realize that you are a sissy, the more of a sissy you are. And allowing people to see that you are a sissy takes courage. Therefore, being an effeminate male is not for the timid or cowardly.
In other words, being a sissy is not for sissies!
I think I have one more entry left in the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series, a few loose ends to tie up. Until next time, let me know of any other typical examples of sissy courage that you might think of, or of examples of courage in your own life of which you are especially proud. And until next time, thanks for reading!
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 3 - Humiliation Makes it Easier to be a Sissy
For the third part in this series I want to talk more about how sissies benefit from humiliation. I also want to touch on something I feel is important to recognize: It takes courage for a sissy to risk embarrassment, and continue on in the face of it. In other words, being a sissy is not for sissies!
I ended the last article in this series by saying that humiliation "makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy." This probably requires a bit of explanation. I understand that it could be argued that humiliation is what makes it hard to be a sissy. After all, if a sissy was not afraid of being embarrassed, there would be nothing stopping her. She could be as sissy as she wanted in any situation. But the answer lies within the argument: it is not humiliation that makes it a challenge to be a sissy, it is the fear of humiliation. The truth is, experiencing humiliation makes it easier to be a sissy because, once you experience humiliation in a given situation, that situation becomes less scary. A few examples...
I was embarrassed when I first went shopping for panties, now I enjoy it even though I realize that everybody knows the panties are for me (see this earlier entry). I was embarrassed when my wife first saw me in a maid uniform, now I find it fulfilling for her to approve my appearance and compliment me on chores well done. I was mortified when Miss Barbara's mother walked in on me cleaning in a housekeeping dress, now I take pride in spending a day at her house, in full maid uniform, and getting it as spotless as it can be. The first time I went jogging in a running skirt a group of three female runners, two of whom I actually knew, burst out in laughter at the sight of me. I felt like hiding and almost turned back. But I kept going and now I might jog past a dozen people on a run and not worry, even as they sometimes giggle and point.
In all of these cases, being a sissy became easier after being initially humiliating. I think being embarrassed is probably the most effective way for a sissy to grow. But the truth is, it has been a while since I have been embarrassed to be a sissy. On one hand, I can see how this is a good thing. It shows acceptance of myself as a sissy and, at least in some situations, acceptance that others see me as a sissy too. On the other hand, maybe I've gotten too comfortable. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. Maybe I need to have more courage.
Courage? What would a sissy know about courage? Well, putting yourself into a situation where you might be humiliated is not natural. Your palms sweat, your hands shake, your voice might not be steady, you get nervous. You may have experienced the feeling of your mind screaming for you to run away to safety. But courage is not not being afraid, courage is being afraid but continuing on. It takes courage to expose yourself to humiliation. That is why I say that, oddly enough, "Being a sissy... is not for sissies!"
I'll talk more about the courage of sissies in part four of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Has humiliation made it easier for you to be a sissy? Or, has it made it harder? Do you feel courageous as a sissy? Have you seen or heard about a sissy doing something that takes courage? See you soon and thanks again for reading!
I ended the last article in this series by saying that humiliation "makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy." This probably requires a bit of explanation. I understand that it could be argued that humiliation is what makes it hard to be a sissy. After all, if a sissy was not afraid of being embarrassed, there would be nothing stopping her. She could be as sissy as she wanted in any situation. But the answer lies within the argument: it is not humiliation that makes it a challenge to be a sissy, it is the fear of humiliation. The truth is, experiencing humiliation makes it easier to be a sissy because, once you experience humiliation in a given situation, that situation becomes less scary. A few examples...
I was embarrassed when I first went shopping for panties, now I enjoy it even though I realize that everybody knows the panties are for me (see this earlier entry). I was embarrassed when my wife first saw me in a maid uniform, now I find it fulfilling for her to approve my appearance and compliment me on chores well done. I was mortified when Miss Barbara's mother walked in on me cleaning in a housekeeping dress, now I take pride in spending a day at her house, in full maid uniform, and getting it as spotless as it can be. The first time I went jogging in a running skirt a group of three female runners, two of whom I actually knew, burst out in laughter at the sight of me. I felt like hiding and almost turned back. But I kept going and now I might jog past a dozen people on a run and not worry, even as they sometimes giggle and point.
In all of these cases, being a sissy became easier after being initially humiliating. I think being embarrassed is probably the most effective way for a sissy to grow. But the truth is, it has been a while since I have been embarrassed to be a sissy. On one hand, I can see how this is a good thing. It shows acceptance of myself as a sissy and, at least in some situations, acceptance that others see me as a sissy too. On the other hand, maybe I've gotten too comfortable. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. Maybe I need to have more courage.
Courage? What would a sissy know about courage? Well, putting yourself into a situation where you might be humiliated is not natural. Your palms sweat, your hands shake, your voice might not be steady, you get nervous. You may have experienced the feeling of your mind screaming for you to run away to safety. But courage is not not being afraid, courage is being afraid but continuing on. It takes courage to expose yourself to humiliation. That is why I say that, oddly enough, "Being a sissy... is not for sissies!"
I'll talk more about the courage of sissies in part four of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Has humiliation made it easier for you to be a sissy? Or, has it made it harder? Do you feel courageous as a sissy? Have you seen or heard about a sissy doing something that takes courage? See you soon and thanks again for reading!
Friday, October 26, 2012
Humiliation and the Sissy, Part 2 - Two Benefits of Embarrassing Your Sissy Self
This is the second part in a series about the relationship between sissies and humiliation. This time I want to expand on the idea that sissies should expect, and even seek, humiliation and use embarrassment as a teaching and learning opportunity.
It is possible for you to be a sissy and never be embarrassed. You can order panties, bras, dresses, maid uniforms, makeup, wigs... pretty much anything your little heart desires, online. You can hide all of your girly things from friends and family, dates, lovers and wives, and live in fear that somebody might find something. You can dress up in private and nobody will ever see you. You can be as sissy as you want online, make friends, have fun, be part of a community, and no one in the "real world" ever has to know. All of this is well and good, but for most sissies this should not be enough.
A sissy needs to push the envelope in some way, to be challenged. And how is a sissy challenged? One way is to get herself into situations where she might be embarrassed. Shopping for panties is a good and very common example. Most sissies get very nervous when they first shop for panties of their own, I know I did. And why is this? A number of reasons might be given: "Somebody might see me." "Somebody might know the panties are for me." "Somebody might laugh at me." They all come down to the same thing: "Somebody might realize I am a sissy." And if somebody realizes you are a sissy you will be embarrassed, humiliated.
Is the fact that you might be humiliated a good reason not to shop for panties? No! It is a good reason to shop for panties! The truth is, somebody, maybe several people, will certainly realize that you are a sissy. At a minimum the cashier will know. It might be embarrassing but there are at least two reasons that this is a good thing: 1) It spreads the idea that some "men" are sissies and 2) It gets you used to the fact that you yourself are a sissy.
The first point is important because the more people that know about sissies, the more sissies there might be. Suppose only one person, the cashier, realizes you are a sissy (and she will). It might give her ideas about her husband. Or she might tell her husband which might give him ideas of his own. She could tell her girlfriends which might give them ideas about their husbands or boyfriends. Or they might tell their husbands or boyfriends and give them ideas of their own! Now multiply this effect by the number of people that see you shopping for panties. The point is, you never know how far the sissy influence might spread.
The second point is important because if you are a sissy, you should feel like a sissy. And you never feel more like a sissy than when you are embarrassed because you know somebody else sees you as a sissy. There's no undoing it, no talking them out of it. They know it and you know it. You might as well accept it, and accept that more people will know it over time. This is a very powerful reinforcement of your identity as a sissy and not a man. Basically, it makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy.
I'll explore the second point more in part three of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Are there any more advantages of humiliating yourself as a sissy? What ways have you embarrassed yourself by revealing your true sissy self? See you next time and thanks so much for reading!
It is possible for you to be a sissy and never be embarrassed. You can order panties, bras, dresses, maid uniforms, makeup, wigs... pretty much anything your little heart desires, online. You can hide all of your girly things from friends and family, dates, lovers and wives, and live in fear that somebody might find something. You can dress up in private and nobody will ever see you. You can be as sissy as you want online, make friends, have fun, be part of a community, and no one in the "real world" ever has to know. All of this is well and good, but for most sissies this should not be enough.
A sissy needs to push the envelope in some way, to be challenged. And how is a sissy challenged? One way is to get herself into situations where she might be embarrassed. Shopping for panties is a good and very common example. Most sissies get very nervous when they first shop for panties of their own, I know I did. And why is this? A number of reasons might be given: "Somebody might see me." "Somebody might know the panties are for me." "Somebody might laugh at me." They all come down to the same thing: "Somebody might realize I am a sissy." And if somebody realizes you are a sissy you will be embarrassed, humiliated.
Is the fact that you might be humiliated a good reason not to shop for panties? No! It is a good reason to shop for panties! The truth is, somebody, maybe several people, will certainly realize that you are a sissy. At a minimum the cashier will know. It might be embarrassing but there are at least two reasons that this is a good thing: 1) It spreads the idea that some "men" are sissies and 2) It gets you used to the fact that you yourself are a sissy.
The first point is important because the more people that know about sissies, the more sissies there might be. Suppose only one person, the cashier, realizes you are a sissy (and she will). It might give her ideas about her husband. Or she might tell her husband which might give him ideas of his own. She could tell her girlfriends which might give them ideas about their husbands or boyfriends. Or they might tell their husbands or boyfriends and give them ideas of their own! Now multiply this effect by the number of people that see you shopping for panties. The point is, you never know how far the sissy influence might spread.
The second point is important because if you are a sissy, you should feel like a sissy. And you never feel more like a sissy than when you are embarrassed because you know somebody else sees you as a sissy. There's no undoing it, no talking them out of it. They know it and you know it. You might as well accept it, and accept that more people will know it over time. This is a very powerful reinforcement of your identity as a sissy and not a man. Basically, it makes you more of a sissy because it makes it easier to be a sissy.
I'll explore the second point more in part three of the "Humiliation and the Sissy" series. Until then, let me know what you think. Are there any more advantages of humiliating yourself as a sissy? What ways have you embarrassed yourself by revealing your true sissy self? See you next time and thanks so much for reading!
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